#21 - The “Fuck It” Energy
#21 - The “Fuck It!” Energy
This article discusses:
The given and ungiven f*cks
When nothing works
The power of surrendering
Tell me about you.
Hello beautiful people.
It seems like we keep coming back to the “let go” and learning how to lose control energy.
This is what my one of my friends called the “fuck it” energy.
I love it, and I wanted to write to you today about this.
The book of Mark Manson called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life came directly to my mind.
I don’t usually like to use swear words. I apologise in advance if your ears or eyes are annoyed by this. However, for one article, I will allow the “fuck it” energy to operate.
Pay attention to this quote below.
“In my life, I have given a fuck about many people and many things. I have also not given a fuck about many people and many things. And like the road not taken, it was the fucks not given that made all the difference.” Mark Manson
This is not me though.
I give lots of “fucks”. Way too much!
I know where this comes from. But it’s time to stop, reflect and take action in not giving f*cks anymore. Not about everything, but about some things.
This is when the unlearning process starts.
Let me give you a bit of context. I’ve been in Australia for almost 6 years (since October 2018). I’ve been on 5 different types of visas. I applied for a permanent one in November 2023. We are currently on the 28th of April 2024, and still nothing. The visa hasn’t been granted yet.
Being currently on another type of visa with too many restrictions in terms of studies and work, it makes my daily life quite difficult. I feel imprisoned, stuck, not in control, as if someone were managing my life instead of me.
However, the truth is that I always have a choice. What I am feeling might not be the reality. It is my reality, my perception at the moment, but I know that whatever happens, I actually have the power to decide, change my mind and take action.
I discussed my options in terms of visa/immigration with a good friend of mine yesterday. It seems like my situation is special (not in a good way). Truthfully, I actually don’t have lots of options that allow me to stay in Australia until my visa is granted.
I’m scared. Truly. But I also know why I am scared.
I make Australia my home. I’ve built so much here. I’ve been destroyed, but I also put pieces together, and I started all over again. I’ve made tough decisions. However, even if now Australia might be a little too comfortable, it is my Home. I feel safe here and I’m very settled. I’ve got two very good jobs. I’m becoming a psychotherapist, slower than expected (which is what I want!). I know Australia very well and I want to continue building a life here.
I often used to say that it is necessary to step back, leave and reflect to confirm (or not) that I made the right choice. I feel like this time has come!
I might have to leave Australia for visa purposes. Beyond that, this is maybe what I actually need to do to continue my life journey better, with more clarity and consciousness.
So far, in terms of immigration, I have not been too lucky. I had to start my plan all over again to get permanent residency three times already. I am tired of fighting and giving too much f*cks of what maybe I have not been supposed to work at all.
I’m tired of intellectualising it all. I’m tired of fighting when there is maybe no need to fight at all.
I am a believer that everything happens for a reason.
Also, challenges are here to support us in our life journey, not to put us down.
It is hard to believe when you’re right in the struggle. But I know deep down that I am here for a reason, and that all those struggles are teaching me a great deal.
I haven’t made my decision yet. Still waiting on a few more factors to confirm my choice. But I activated the “fuck it” energy, which very often led me to backpacking: sell my stuff, pack my bags and say goodbye and leave for a few months. Leaving Australia for a few months, not knowing if I will be able to be back, will be the most difficult decision. But I also feel that it will be the best experience for me to learn how to truly release, how to genuinely accept what is and surrender.
I’ll finish these reflections with another quote from Mark Manson:
“You and everyone you know are going to be dead soon. And in the short amount of time between here and there, you have a limited amount of fucks to give.”
So … on that note … I might be wanting to surrender and not give another big f*ck by exploring the world and visiting my family in Europe.
Tell me about you:
When everything goes south, what do you tend to do?
Tell me what you give a f*ck about?
In what you do not?
I’m sending you pure and genuine love, filled with light and warmth.
Take care of your whole self, each other, and your community.
Nurture and be mindful of the natural world around you and within you
Sarah from sarahfrustietherapy
P.S: This article was written on 28/04/2024.
We are now the 29th of December 2025. All is well! I eventually had to leave Australia for 4 weeks, and after some further battles, I found another visa to apply for. I am currently on a temporary resident visa. I have Medicare and other privileges :)
In November 2025, I was finally invited to apply for permanent residence. This is a huge milestone for me, and I am thrilled to have celebrated my eighth Christmas in Australia.
Now, all I have to do is wait for my permanent residency visa application to be granted. In the meantime, why not not giving a f*ck and live a good life?
Resources
Manson, M. (2016). The subtle art of not giving a f*ck : a counterintuitive approach to
living a good life. HarperOne, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers.
Written 28/04/2024
Published 29/12/2025
